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| Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity | 
 enlarge | Author: Shirley P. Glass
Creator: Jean Coppock Staeheli
Publisher: Free Press
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  66 reviews
Sales Rank: 3031
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 448
Shipping Weight (lbs): 2.2
Dimensions (in): 5.4 x 4.1 x 1.2
ISBN: 0743225503
Dewey Decimal Number: 152
EAN: 9780743225502
ASIN: 0743225503
Publication Date: February 3, 2004
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Product Description
You're right to be cautious when you hear these words:"I'm telling you, we're just friends." Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for "friendships" that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
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| Customer Reviews: Read 61 more reviews...
 Very revealing October 5, 2008
I bought this book because my life partner stated repeatedly that the OP and he were "just friends." I wanted to believe him so I kept ignoring all the signs that Dr. Glass discusses. Dr. Glass was relevant and insightful. The book is 425 pages but is a read quick. Before I discovered that my life partner was having an affair and that my best girl friend's husband was having an affair, I had no idea how rampant infidelity is. "Good people in good marriages are having affairs." Its amazing how our society condones the easy thing ---an affair. I wished that I would have known about "safe friendships" before all this happened. Dr. Glass does not have time to talk about recovering and healing adequately on your own. However, Dr. Glass does have other books that would probably be helpful. Her chapter regarding questions to ask after affair will be helpful once I am able to communicate with unfaithful one.
This is THE Book for Those Recovering from Infidelity July 12, 2008
I never thought this would be me needing a book like this. My husband is not "the type" to have an affair, but he did. It blew my world apart. This book helped explain why it happened, how it was not because we had a bad marriage, how to recover, and it validated all the feelings and thoughts I was having. This book is truly amazing. Glass really left a gift for so many people in writing this book. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED and SO HELPFUL.
So greatful for this book June 28, 2008
2 out of 3 found this review helpful
I just finished this book and what a Godsend. I found out my husband was having an emotional affair on March 31st of this year. An old high school girlfriend Googled him and they'd been talking for six months. He saw her in Feb. when he went to visit his brother for an ice fishing trip and they were planning on meeting in April for "more". About a month after he started talking to her I noticed he was distant, but thought it was because we'd just celebrated our 20th anniversary and things were getting old. Little did I know "she" entered the picture. On Jan. 1st I suspected he had a gf, but he called me crazy and paranoid. After reading this book so many things made sense and I was able to make sense of the mess my marriage had become.
He claimed he never intended for things to get out of hand and they were "just friends"at first. He told her we were having problems and he put up a wall between us and opened the window for her (this is in the book). My H has always had such strong morals and good character. He badmouthed everyone we have ever known to cheat, but here he turned around and did the very same thing. Of all people I TRULY never thought he would do this.
The only problem I had with the book is that the affair partner is talked about as being a single woman. In my case the other woman is married and has kids the same age as mine. She didn't plan on leaving her husband until her youngest was in college (in 5 years). She was ok with my husband meeting her 3 or 4 times per year until then. This woman is also a churchgoer, provides daycare in her home, prepares peoples taxes, lives in small town MN, was a soccer-mom, etc. I'm guessing she was bored and needed some excitement. Too bad she didn't realize that my husband made things sound so wonderful on the phone and online. Maybe if they lived with each other they would have realized that life is much more than what we can make the other believe.
My husband and I are trying to get our marriage back on track, but it's so hard because he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. From reading the book I understand this is natural for the betraying partner, but I need to talk and figure this stuff out. I asked my husband this week to read two of the last few chapters hoping he will understand my point. How am I to have compassion for him, as discussed in the book, if he doesn't have much for me?
If my marriage survives Ms. Glass will get much of the credit! March 1, 2008
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
Simply fantastic. Gives full credence to the pain the betrayed partner goes through without ripping up the betraying partner. Quotes statistics, is no nonsense, gives excellent PRACTICAL advice for how to move on. Even explains the point of view of the other woman or man-what they might have invested.
I have a master's degree, betraying partner has a PhD, between us we found most books too difficult to slog through. Not this book. Plain, simple, elegant, and willing to hope. I cannot say enough good about it. May buy a second copy just so my spouse can have own!
 Kind of a hard read February 8, 2008
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
I think this book is very helpful,just a lot of info to take in at once. She bounces from one couple to another so it's hard to keep up with. I am trying to just take pieces of it that fit my situation. Not a book to be read quickly.
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