If You Want Closure in Your Relationship, Start with Your Legs: A Guide to Understanding Men

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NATIONAL ESSENCE BESTSELLER

Want to find real, committed love? The bodyguard for women's hearts reveals the minds of men in this tough-love guide to relationships.

After decades of preying on women as a pimp and a hustler, Big Boom knows all the games men play. He's now given up his player card, exposing the motivations of men and providing women with down-to-earth advice on how to create a fulfilling, loving relationship.

From sex with the ex to first dates, from the first look to the morning after, Boom leaves nothing out. His straight-talking advice exposes women's weaknesses and is invaluable to any woman determined to avoid common mistakes that lead to heartbreak.

This unique guide will show women not only how to find true love with Mr. Right, but also how to avoid Mr. Never-Gonna-Happen, Mr. Infidelity, and a variety of other Mr. Wrongs.

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1 out of 5 stars

Hell to the NO October 30, 2006
44 out of 61 found this review helpful

If you were Whitney and you were dating Bobby, then I can see how you would find this book helpful. However, if you're a college educated female with more than a high school education then walk-on-by.

To start, the book title purports to be a book for females, when it's actually a book for men. Mr. Boom basically list all the negative things that been said about females for generations and tell us to just stop, stop doing it. There is no introduction to the topic, no understanding, no conclusion other than "quit doing it".

For example, his topic about women who talk about their relationship with their girlfriends. The author states that women need to STOP telling their girlfriends everything because it's usually the girlfriend with no man that's giving them the advice and that this is what ruins your relationship. This from the man who purports to know and understand women. Now if he were an author he would have said (and wrote):

"I know that women tend to talk and that's the way you communication the way you bond, you grandmother did it as she was cooking with you and your sisters in the kitchen, you do it with your girlfriends at lunch, but you have to know they are somethings you will need to workout for yourself, ask for advice but listen to your heart and take the situation from every angle." <-- BUT he didn't say that, he took 6 sentences to sum up such a topic and that's all the book is. A major chapter, 5 sub-heading and 6 sentences to explain each sub-heading, this is our advice. hhhmmmm, as if life was that easy. (check the table of contents, some chapters are 6 pages long)

I guess Mr. Boom is still a chauvinist, fist trying to pass himself off as a man and now as an author WHO understands women. I'm surprise he didn't tell women to stop wearing mini skirts, because with clothing like that you're just asking to be raped. As if men are raging dogs who can't control themselves, because with this statement, you're saying - just - that . . .

4 out of 5 stars

Don't Trip... Boom Still Has a Ways To Go! August 9, 2006
27 out of 30 found this review helpful

I think that if Big Boom fires his current editor and does a reprint with a few minor revisions, it would truly be a great read. While Big Boom does openly forewarn readers that he lacks formal education, I fault the editor for allowing the vast number of the grammatical and typographical errors that are in the final edition. It often made it difficult to understand and I found myself re-reading several paragraphs because there were glaring errors that made the text confusing to follow at times.

Overall, I was entertained and enlightened to a certain extent by Big Boom's advice. His `tell-it-like-it-is' approach was refreshing. I found that a lot of his advice was bold, realistic and practical, in spite of the fact that it may not be what some female readers would like to hear. I don't know whether humor was intentionally incorporated in this book, but I found myself laughing at some of his personal anecdotes and even some of his `phraseology.' I too was a little confused at some repetitive phrases/statements. I could not tell whether this was done intentionally for emphasis or like another reviewer pointed out as a "filler" simply because he lacked anything new or pertinent to add. Aside from the poor editing, it is an easy read. I appreciated the various websites he gave at the end, although I wasn't clear on why he included children's websites in the end, unless he wanted to include something for single mothers; but the information was useful nonetheless.

I also got confused with the questionnaire at the end because it starts off as "Questions to Ask Men" and somewhere down the line, the questions become self reflection questions for the reader. I would recommend this book to young girls in high school or college who may not have a male influence around them, as it will give them insight into the games many men play on women and teach them how to avoid the various traps the `playas' set for them and perhaps save them from abusive situations.

I agree with other comments that Big Boom is a better speaker than writer, but I do like his raw honesty and "Keepin it real" approach. He doesn't sugarcoat anything and admits he still has a way to go. Overall, this was not a horrible book and I did actually find a few things in it (especially about the male psyche) that were helpful to me.

While, others mention that the book is full of shameless self promotion, I can overlook that because as a new writer and 'unknown' in the literary world, it really is necessary for his success as an author, particularly as an author of a self help book. It was imperative for him to define to potential readers what qualifies him to speak on this issue and what his experience in this area is; and he does that. I'm also proud of the fact that he acknowledges his mistakes in the past and resolves to continue to make positive changes in his life, particularly as it relates to his daughter.

4 out of 5 stars

Knowing Men, 101? (3 rating) June 13, 2007
21 out of 22 found this review helpful

If You Want Closure in Your Relationships Start with Your Legs by The Big Boom is certainly a catchy title. When I saw the title I was interested in reading it, convinced there would be something new. There was nothing new or different; most of the subjects that Mr. Boom covered were the messages that mothers and grandmothers have been passed down for years. Messages such as keep your business to yourself, don't sell yourself short and certainly to keep your legs closed until you are sure you are valued by your partner. What made this different is that the book was written by a self-professed former ladies' man who is now happily married. Mr. Boom was once a bodyguard, most notably for Steve Harvey and has had his share of relationships.

Some of the messages are tried and true ones. However he presents them as short topics with a few sentences explaining his viewpoints. The book is filled with titles and a few sentences of what he feels are the answers to why relationships are not working between men and women. I found them to be more a do as I say, not as I have done message. In many ways, it read as though women are responsible for men's behavior and if they would simply follow his advice all would be right with relationships.

If You Want Closure in Your Relationships Start with Your Legs would be a recommended read for those in need of a simple refresher course on what they were taught as youngsters. It may even serve as a wake-up call for women interested in one man's perspective.

Angelia Menchan
APOOO BookClub

1 out of 5 stars

Keep your money honey October 12, 2006
15 out of 17 found this review helpful

Big Boom said everything he had to say in the title of the book. The rest of the book looks good on the outside, but is very empty on new revelation. Poor editing, repeating statements, rambling on from tangent to tangent. Take your $23.00 and carry a little old lady to Starbucks, and get the same information, plus, you will be doing a good deed.

1 out of 5 stars

I was highly disappointed August 6, 2006
14 out of 14 found this review helpful

The only reason I purchased this book was because I heard this particular author on the radio giving great advice to female callers concerning their relationships. If this book was written as well as he speaks this book WOULD have been a great read. I found nothing thought provoking in this book what so ever. A lot of his thoughts were outdated and he seriously needed a spell check or fire his editor. The typo's in this book are horrendous leaving me to wonder how it got published in the first place. Big boom should stick to public speaking. He's a far better speaker then he'll ever be at writing.

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