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| The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed | 
 enlarge | Authors: Mystery, Lovedrop
Creator: Neil Strauss
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  154 reviews
Sales Rank: 403
Media: Hardcover
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Pages: 240
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.8
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.7 x 1.1
ISBN: 0312360118
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.77
EAN: 9780312360115
ASIN: 0312360118
Publication Date: February 6, 2007
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Product Description
“One of the most admired men in the world of seduction” (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women
For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world’s greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world’s most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss’s New York Times bestselling expose, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
His tips include:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
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| Customer Reviews: Read 149 more reviews...
 Interesting view... difficult effectivity February 13, 2007
178 out of 238 found this review helpful
Certainly, the neatness & careful order of the pick up is fully explained in the so expected Mystery's book (there are many interesting observations and social dynamics views). However, having experienced it a few years ago by myself, and after coming up with my own way of seducinig women, which is more direct, simpler and more natural, I see this now as a very complex dating manual.
What I mean is that the 'venusian artist' (as Mystery calls) who really wants to improve his skills with the opposite sex will need lots of time, motivation, encouragement and willpower to keep going out 4 times a week to nightclubs as Mystery suggest, and keep approaching and entertaining groups and groups of people until he 'becomes good' (which still doesn't mean he will get laid). And let's be honest, most guys out there don't want to become a pick up entertaining machine. They just want to get their booty call once in a while.
People have been mating for millions of years without these kind of things and many great ladie's men have been enjoying their success without doing these kind of advices, actually by being more direct and persistent. The truth is that there's really no method, only what works for specific guys in specific places and time, with specific types of girls (actually it is called Mystery's for a reason). Obviously any shy and unskilled guy will become good at meeting women by going out a lot and becoming more social, it is no secret! Flirting is no rocket science, but if you still want to enjoy the 'game' as they call it, and want to explore the method for yourself, read the book and try it for yourself.
Just please don't become one of these guys who have spent thousand dollars on workshops, seminars, books and tapes and still don't get laid because they think they still need the 'ultimate secret formula'. There's none. The problem I see in mystery method is that the author has tried to make all this mating thing as a science and people get lost in the process instead of enjoying a normal interaction with the opposite sex ("Give me more routines. I need a new 'opener'. I still need to 'practice' my negs" etc. etc).
Whatever 'method' you use, it will work if you just grab your balls and talk to the women you are really attracted to. Just don't expect miracles of the 'I-Can-Get-Any-Girl' type. Some will want to have sex with you, some others not, no matter what you do. Just find out which ones are the willing ones to share orgasms with you. That's reality. Enjoy.
 Excellent, if dry March 8, 2007
154 out of 186 found this review helpful
You should read "The Game" by Neil Strauss first - Neil's book is a very entertaining read. This book is a textbook, pure and simple. The information is outstanding, but it's not meant to be entertaining, just informative. The book is not hard to understand at all, if you've read "The Game" first.
For those who say "Act naturally and practice, you don't need advice books", everyone can benefit from coaching. Even Michael Jordan acknowledged how coaches helped his basketball game.
In response to the reviewer that compained about PUA's manipulating females, women have men beat in the manipulation game by a country mile. Women manipulate to obtain money and resources for men, and there are entire industries devoted to it (women's magazines, clothing, makeup, plastic surgery, etc.). The PUA community is only an attempt to level the playing field.
Not just for pick up artists March 18, 2007
104 out of 109 found this review helpful
This short book is about being persuasive and asserting influence. If you peel away the title,though, it could be about marketing and closing any sale: don't be needy; be mentally able to walk away from any deal; understand the value of having a high social proof; invest others in you; develop a process, not a one liner. It has some good stuff about how our brains are wired and why. And, having read Strauss's book, I believe that Mystery and his method works for a PUA but it sounds like a lot of work, which maybe why he claims that there is only 4 to 10 hours between meeting and congress. The book is well written and makes good use of charts, although the bullet points are overdone---like apricot jam spread on toast, a little can go a long way. A book that anyone who persuades for a living should ,well, pick up.
 Bad Advice For Nice Guys August 10, 2007
39 out of 75 found this review helpful
I can't believe how many guys are buying this book or these books in general. The advice, like "negging" is horrible. If you're a nice guy trying to learn about women, please don't read this book. It will turn you into a creep that makes you walk around, talking about women as "targets" and rating them "7's", "8's" and other insulting numbers. The advice is sophmoric and insulting to women and really to men, too. There's nothing in this boring read that matters, like a discussion of timing or paying attention to women. It doesn't talk about anything except pushing a continuous approach. No matter what the woman says, no matter what she does, even if she's not interested, it tells you to just keep pushing. My friends and I have had guys bounced out of bars for not leaving us alone on more than one occassion. Some of them claimed to be pick-up artists. I didn't know what that meant until I read The Manual and God is a Woman: Dating Disasters and Amazon started pushing pick-up artist books on me because of those reads.
The problem with those "pua" guys wasn't that we didn't like them, at least at first; it was because they just ignored most of what we said and kept very obviously using techniques they had learned, like negging. It became very obvious very quickly that they weren't the least bit interested in us, just sex. I could have told them I was from the planet Xeron, here to eat human brains, and they wouldn't have even heard me, they were so busy working their "game." I asked one of them a question and he completely ignored me, instead deciding it was time to neg me. This is what he said about the mole on my cheek - "Some guys don't like a mark like that and consider it a disfigurement. I think it's sexy." Okay... what does that have to do with what I just asked??? Pay attention to me! When we asked them to go away because we were tired of them, they kept coming. We had them bounced.
This book is all about tricks. Do you really expect to get good advice from a guy who wears an ugly hat just so he can use it all the time to put on a woman's head in order to get her to follow him, if nothing else to return the hat? I'm not kidding, he does that! That's his advice! Ridiculous. I know he's had that hat thrown in his face, even if he doesn't admit to it.
Women want nice guys, we really do. Don't use tricks. Instead, learn to pay attention to us, find out if you really like us, and learn how to time your compliments - there's no reason to neg! If you want help and good advice, two really good books are God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters and The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top. They give advice to both men and women about getting comfortable with each other, not a bunch of worthless tricks. The author of 'God' wrote "get comfortable with women, not your game" in a recent ezine article and his book. That is the best advice you'll ever get.
If Mystery can't help the guys on his show, how will this book help the reader? September 4, 2007
34 out of 57 found this review helpful
As someone who has been in "the community" for 10 years, I bought the book out of curiousity from seeing his "PUA" show on VH1
After several episodes of the TV show, none of the guys, even the better looking guys, have managed to "F" close any girls or kiss close or "number" close any girls which would be described as "beautiful"
So if these guys who are getting hands on training from Mystery and his tops students, and are studying this material night and day and are not "getting beautiful women into bed" as the cover of the book promises, then what can you expect from reading his book and practicing on your own, without Mystery to give you instant critque and feedback like the guys on the PUA show?
Personally, I have met Mystery and like him, but his "Method" is more hype and hope than anything of substance.
Also, it is based on using dishonest tactics, like asking girls questions (opinion openers) that you don't have the slightest care of what the answer is just so you have an excuse to talk to them, using "False time constraints" in order to create the impression that you will soon be leaving in the hopes that they will want you to stay, Fake "Accomplishment openers" that build up your wingman, and other dishonest methods to "DHV" (Demonstrate High Value) to a woman or group of people.
What kind of relationship are you going to have with any woman of substance when it is all based on lies, tricks and gimmicks?
None. That's what kind.
These tactics and tricks work on insecure, low self-esteemed, liquored-up club girls who hook up with different guys weekly, but that's about it.
Once the mask of tricks and gimmicks is removed, the "AFC" still exists underneath it all, and any woman of worth will easily see right through it.
Instead of learning a bunch of tricks and tactics and gimmicks that every "HB" will have heard and seen a dozen times in the next few months, learn and work on becoming the type of Man that Women will naturally be attracted to.
Be a Prince, her Knight in Shining Armor and not a (Peacocking) Jester.
Becoming a Man of true "High Value" is much harder work than using shortcuts and tricks and gimmicks to give the illusion of being a Man of "High Value", but guess which way is far more rewarding, and is so in all aspects of your life?
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