| | My Answer is No . . . If That's Okay with You: How Women Can Say No and (Still) Feel Good About It |  | Author: Nanette Gartrell
Publisher: Free Press
Category: Book
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Pages: 272
ISBN: 1416546952
Dewey Decimal Number: 306
EAN: 9781416546955
ASIN: 1416546952
Publication Date: January 6, 2009 (In 123 Days)
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- Are you afraid you'll hurt the people you care about if you say NO to them?
- Can you set limits when employees neglect their responsibilities? How about with your boss?
- When friends ask you to do something you don't want to do, do you invent an elaborate excuse?
- Do you have a hard time saying NO to an invitation even when you're completely exhausted?
- Do you have trouble even practicing the sentence "No, Mom, I just can't make it home this holiday"?
If any of these scenarios sound familiar, keep reading - you need this book... No is a very simple word -- two letters, one syllable. Yet many women have a hard time saying it without feeling anxious or guilty. In My Answer Is NO...If That's Okay with You, award-winning psychiatrist and author Dr. Nanette Gartrell takes a fresh look at why even the most powerful, accomplished, and successful women find it difficult to say no and offers a revolutionary approach to setting limits without jeopardizing important relationships. Today women are bombarded with messages like "put yourself first" and "stop being a people-pleaser." But this sort of advice is useless to women who value the caring and generosity that prompt them to say yes in the first place. Through personal interviews with a diverse group of talented women, including CEOs, celebrities, physicians, and public officials, Dr. Gartrell shows that women's reluctance to say no stems from valuable traits that they should embrace, such as empathy, sensitivity, and thoughtfulness. With humor and wisdom, Dr. Gartrell reaffirms the psychological importance of compassion and feeling connected, which can often lead a woman to say yes rather than no in order to preserve a relationship or spare someone's feelings. Through entertaining anecdotes and insights from her years of clinical practice, Dr. Gartrell teaches women to honor their best instincts while still maintaining boundaries. My Answer Is NO...If That's Okay with You offers creative, practical ways to transform an automatic or reluctant yes into a healthy, respectful no -- and still feel good about it.
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A MUST READ! January 8, 2008
5 out of 7 found this review helpful
Well, I finished reading the book and I cried. The book touched me on many levels. I was raised in a very dysfunctional household - I think my mother invented the word dysfunctional! That's a great part of why the book is so important to women like me. At large, Chapters 3, 6, 8 and 9 spoke directly to me - out loud! Great book! A must read and learn!
refreshing approach to tough problem January 16, 2008
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
Like most of my female friends, I agonize when I have to refuse a request. Because I feel so guilty, I usually agree to do things that I don't want to do. At the same time, I resist one-size-fits-all JUST SAY NO solutions to my excessive compliance. What stands out about this book is that it is full of examples that fill in the middle ground between extreme acquiescence and absolutist NO's. There is no RIGHT WAY to say no. What a relief to find that the high-profile women interviewed by the author squirm and equivocate just as much as I do. I also love the gazillion examples of soft, relationship-sensitive NO's the author provides. This is a great book for anyone in search of nuanced solutions to social problems.
Immediately Applicable January 20, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
As is typical of many women, saying no is something that I just cannot seem to do routinely. It has caused me more problems than my past problems with alcohol. Sober 22 years, I still have a tough time saying the simple word "no." Dr. Gartrell's book is practical and clear. That is what I need. I immediately put it into practice. I am a very fast reader and work in a tough business. The book works for me. I needed help in a fast and sure way. Yes, I appreciate the quotes from women that are very important in the world, yet I equally appreciate the examples from women who are working day-to-day to be stronger, more confident and better at what they do. This book is mandatory, and I rarely hand out compliments. I am a tough sell, and this book should not be. It should fly off the shelves to assist us all. Kimberly Allen Austin, TexasMy Answer is No . . . If That's Okay with You: How Women Can Say No and (Still) Feel Good About It
Absolutely Fabulous! January 15, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
This is a cool book and every teenage girl should read it in order to be able to say no. All my friends are reading it.
Excellent book! January 28, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
As a psychologist, I think that Dr. Gartrell has done an impressive job of writing a book that has equal applicability to readers who are mental health professionals, readers who have never delved into psychology at all, and anyone else in between. No mean feat! It's an overall good read, and some sections are very poignant, others very funny. I think this book will do a lot of good for a wide variety of readers.
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