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| Lies Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free | 
 enlarge | Author: Nancy Leigh Demoss
Publisher: Moody Publishers
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  64 reviews
Sales Rank: 3656
Media: Paperback
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Pages: 288
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Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.4
ISBN: 0802472966
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.843
EAN: 9780802472960
ASIN: 0802472966
Publication Date: April 2002
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The lies Christian women believe are at the root of their struggles. In Lies Women Believe, Nancy Leigh DeMoss exposes areas of deception common to many Christian women -- lies about God, sin, priorities, marriage and family, emotions, and more. She deals honestly with women's delusions and illusions and then gently leads them to the truth of God's word that leads to true freedom.
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 Had problems with the book May 24, 2005
152 out of 192 found this review helpful
This book outlined the lies that many women get caught up in. I felt that there were some good things about this book. We do need to take responsibility for our actions, not remain a victim, and to realize that sin is sin and that God can forgive it all. Surprisingly, the submission chapter was done well, explaining the myths of submission and how a woman in an abusive situation should get out.
But there were many things I didn't like in this book. First, the author took a patronizing, critical, judging tone towards women. She seemed to like to blame women for a lot of problems, without recognizing the role that men often play in those problems.
I was deeply offended about what she had to say about how "a career is more fulfilling than being a wife and mother". I do agree with that statement. But she uses that statement to imply that the only place for the woman is in the home. She blames working women ("in part") for affairs, women being on welfare (I thought working took women OFF welfare), elderly parent being in nursing homes, divorce, single motherhood, teen violence, etc. She doesn't acknowledge other factors going into those things. I mean, men and women have had affairs since the beginning of time. Elderly parents are in nursing homes because they require 24/7 care, not because of the women working (don't sons or SAHM's put their parents in nursing homes?) I work outside the homes, yet, I do have meals with my family and they aren't all fast food or frozen. As far as women gaining financial independence to free them to leave their husbands...I don't know of many women who work for that purpose. But isn't it OK for each woman to have her own money in cases of abuse, addiction, or when the man leaves them for someone else? What if the husband loses his job, becomes disabled, dies, etc? And the Proverbs 31 woman did a little of everything, including working out of the home.
And yes, children are a blessing, but Demoss seems to think it is wrong to limit the number of children a woman has. She comes from a family of 7 kids, and that's great that her mom enjoyed raising 7 kids, but that is not for everyone. The reasons that Demoss gives--not having patience, not being able to physically handle more kids--are perfectly legitimate reasons, that she appeared to mock. Other than the issue of abortion, the Bible doesn't say that limiting the number of children is a sin, just like it is not a sin for women to work outside the home.
And on emotions, she seems to act like it is a sin to call for pizza when you don't feel like cooking (guess I sinned tonight, after my stressful day at work) or not cleaning house when you don't feel like it. And about passive husbands...what if the husband is an alcoholic and can't hold or look for a job? What is the wife to do? Let her and her children starve?
Although there were some good points to the book, I had a problem with many of the issues presented. If anyone were to go through the book, please go through it with a group to work out the trouble spots.
 The Shepherding Movement has influenced this author October 22, 2004
60 out of 90 found this review helpful
Does anyone remember the Shepherding Movement in the 60's - 70's with Mumford, D. Prince and some others? Pretty much ALL the Scripture interpretive eisigesis in this book and her video is straight from the Shepherding Movement which destroyed marriages and left wounded individuals that some today are still healing from these teachings.
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<br />The thing I've noticed about DeMoss is that she starts outside the Scripture from a premise. I've been teaching how to study the Bible for years emphasizing contextual reading and gleaning FROM the Scriptures, thus when someone does what she does it is glaringly obvious to me. One should not START from any approach, but should seek to extract the points from the Scriptures without adding into Scripture.
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<br />For instance take the words "Adam was not deceived, Eve was deceived and thus fell (versus knowingly walked) into transgression. Because DeMoss is coming from a preconceived set of patriarchal beliefs (as many have done throughout history actually) she changes this to meaning that women are easily deceived and more prone to deception. In order to do that she has to change words and add words: Eve becomes "women", and easily and more prone are added in. The actual verse does not address women in general being deceived, yet this is what she uses and patriarchal teaching uses to tell women they need male guidance and are unfit to control their own lives, determine truth... Etc. etc. get the picture. And this view of woman is the primary foundation for all her views of woman.
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<br />And curiously she does not conclude her own approach by applying the same method to the first part and say that men are more prone to deliberately choose wickedness. This then reveals her (and the patriarchal) agenda is not seeking the truth but proving a biased premise by reading it into Scripture rather than gleaning truth from Scripture.
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<br />The redeeming portions of DeMoss's book if you can ignore her incorrect eisigesis of Scripture is the outline of how one falls into deception and how to avoid deception. She also does an excellent work dealing with priorities and how to trust God to heal from childhood lies.
 Both profoundly helpful, and profoundly dangerous January 19, 2005
56 out of 73 found this review helpful
There were several powerful and liberating points in this book that all sisters in Christ need to hear. For example, that there is always enough time in a day to do the things God wants you to do. That makes sense, and it challenges us to seek God a little harder for our daily to-do's, especially when feeling frazzled. For the four or so new powerful truths I gleaned from this book, I also encountered the same number of dangerously enslaving thoughts. For example, the concept that family planning is the mother of abortion. This idea was backed up by quoting the psalmist, King David (you know - "the blessed man has a quiver full of kids" king). Think it through: King David not only had servants to help with his children, but he also had multiple wives. I doubt seriously that any one of his wives bore him a quiver full all by herself. There's serious imbalance to DeMoss's argument. Preventative birth control and advance family planning is not a sin the same as abortion is sin (murder). In final analysis I would remind prospective readers that "there is safety in a multitude of counselors" (Pr 24:6). DeMoss's book is very valuable FOR GLEANING. Just don't go at it willing to swallow every idea hook, line and sinker.
 Men believe these lies too -- Here is an antidote! June 7, 2001
45 out of 59 found this review helpful
How do we really gauge who we are, our importance, our value? Whose yardstick do we measure ourselves by? Why do we sin, when we know it is wrong, when we know what the consequences are? What happens when we have misguided ideas about the nature of God? This scripture-based book will gently guide you back to the truth. It brought me to my knees in recognition of how I can so easily sin when I truly believe. Nancy Leigh DeMoss writes, "When we are not honest with each other, we actually do Satan's work for him, acting as his agents, deceiving and destroying each other." She then gives suggestions for overcoming our selfish and sinful tendencies and growing in our love for God and others. DeMoss has written a powerful, thought-provoking book!
perfect for a small group study! January 7, 2003
27 out of 35 found this review helpful
This book is an incredible conversation starter for a small group. While my group did not necessarily agree with everything Ms. DeMoss wrote, we did have great discussions following each chapter. Many of us had never thought about the issues she brought up. And even though several chapters deal with marriage and child-rearing, it is appropriate for single women as well. If this thought-provoking, Scripture-based book doesn't get you talking, I don't know what will!
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